3 min readHow Much to Spend on a Shiva Gift
Most people spend $50 to $80 on a shiva gift sent on their own. A group sending together, such as an office or a shul committee, usually sends one larger gift in the $80 to $150 range. A tree planted in Israel, at $18, is a meaningful smaller gesture.
Is there a right amount?
No. The family will remember that you thought of them, not the price. Many people give in multiples of $18, the value of chai, the Hebrew word for life.
How much by relationship?
- Close friend or relative: the upper end, or a gift plus a visit.
- Coworker, neighbor or acquaintance: a smaller gift is right, or join a group gift.
- Your boss or a client: chip in to one gift from the team rather than sending an expensive one alone.
More on this in shiva gift etiquette by relationship.
Sending as a group
One larger basket from everyone reads better than several small ones arriving on the same day. Sign the card with the group's name, such as "From your friends at the office", so the family knows who sent it.
What else costs money?
With us, standard shipping is free anywhere in the U.S. and the card is included. 2-Day and Overnight shipping cost extra. You see the total and the arrival date before you pay.
Not sure which size? See which shiva basket to send, or plant a tree in Israel as a gift.
Frequently Asked Questions
How much should I spend on a shiva gift?
Most people send between $50 and $80 on their own. A group sending together usually sends one larger gift in the $80 to $150 range.
What is a good shiva gift on a small budget?
A tree planted in Israel, at $18, or a small dried fruit tray. Both are fitting; the gesture matters more than the amount.
Why do people give in multiples of 18?
The Hebrew word chai, meaning life, has a numerical value of 18, so gifts and donations are often given in multiples of $18.
Does shipping add to the cost?
Not with standard shipping, which is free anywhere in the U.S. 2-Day and Overnight shipping are charged and shown before you pay.
Reviewed with guidance from Jewish mourning traditions across Orthodox, Conservative, and Reform practices.
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